A 17 year old’s thoughts on Misogyny, Masculinity, and Elliot Rodger.

Hi readers,

I know I’m not supposed to do posts like this because, after all, this IS a fashion/art/lifestyle blog, but after watching Elliot Rodger’s YouTube videos and reading the comments of the horde of ignorant misogynistic people advocating(YES, ADVOCATING) the killings at UC Santa Barbara, I’m determined to write this post. It’s 3am and I’m supposed to be sound asleep in bed but I just cannot get myself to leave all this behind and put my mind to rest, not when nonsense like this is happening in this world..

So here we are. Humanity has come to a point where students who feel that they don’t get enough sex are totally capable of picking up a gun and killing their peers at school. We’re living in a generation of violence and distorted sexuality. During the past 33 years, the US alone has been through 71 mass murders, with Elliot Rodger’s being the 71st. It’s gross just to think about.

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Now let’s talk about Elliot Rodger’s recent massacre for a while. Yes, we can all blatantly see that the issue is definitely related to guns being permitted so easily in the US, but some keen eyed analysts all around the internet have come up with theories about the linkages between the Elliot Rodger killings and misogyny, and although when I first heard about the murders I’d nearly lost all faith in the human race, after being assured that there still are some people that fully understand the issue and are capable of seeing the big social picture, I managed to regain some of my lost faith.

I wholeheartedly agree with the rapidly growing surge of netizens that are trying to raise awareness of how misogyny and social perceptions did indeed contribute a great deal to the terrible sin of Rodger. Anyone who has seen Rodger’s videos(click here to watch) would realize that he had a distorted view of the opposite sex and sex and dating itself. And while I acknowledge the fact that he was mentally ill, and that there are so many other issues related to what caused him to do what he did, I strongly feel that social atmosphere played a huge part in this crime.

In his videos, Rodger states that he doesn’t understand why girls aren’t attracted to him and won’t give him sex. He continuously emphasizes throughout his videos that it’s an injustice that girls won’t be with him. He says that he is going to show girls that he is the magnificent ultimate male by ‘slaughtering’ them. Later he said something along the lines of ‘I wouldn’t have killed the six innocent people if a girl had accepted me’. So from this we can observe that the main reason behind Rodger’s killings was that he was an incel(involuntarily celibate), which is a word defined by Urban Dictionary as “A frustrated virgin who feels as if the world owes them sex. A self-described ‘incel’ is highly likely to blame their virginity on the other 6,999,999,999 people on the planet rather than consider that maybe the problem lies inward.” (just to give you an idea of what it means.) Elliot Rodger wasn’t just an incel in his mind though-he had been participating in conversations on internet sites for men containing content degrading women and ‘standing up for men’s rights’.

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(Elliot Rodger and a quote from his manifesto.)

Well. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to misogyny and distorted sexuality. A world where men kill because the other gender refuses to have sex with them or be in a relationship with them. The interesting question raised by many at this point is “Why men?” Among those 71 killings that have occurred in the US over the past 33 years, 70 of them have one thing in common. The fact that the perpetrators of the crimes were men. Here in Korea I’m constantly hearing more and more tragic stories of men raping/killing their ex girlfriends after being rejected by them. Do you feel anything yet? How about if I told you again that Elliot Rodger killed because he thought women owed him love and sex, and thought it an ‘injustice’ that women would not give it to him, and thought that murdering people would make him the superior alpha male? Rodger was just one of the many that have been/are being affected by the standards of masculinity that society has set for us-that males must not be emotional, that they must be strong at all times, that they need to “stop being a pussy” and show how tough they are by resorting to rash and (usually)violent actions. We need to realize that by setting and accepting(whether you’re doing it consciously or unconsciously) these standards, we as a society are leading our boys down the dark alleyway of violent masculinity.

A short video about the terrible things we do to boys before they grow into men. http://www.upworthy.com/theres-something-absolutely-wrong-with-what-we-do-to-boys-before-they-grow-into-men?c=exit1

All of this is linked together in a big, messed up ball which is dragging us all downhill into a pit of my lost faith in humanity. You know, I used to be so naive and hopeful of this world, and thought I could walk up to any stranger on the street and ask them which way to go and they would try their best to help me out. I thought no matter how bad things got, all humans still had a heart that would alert them whenever they tried to do something so…so inhumane. I guess I was just too naive for this world. Maybe stupid.

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 I think any decent human being would be able to see that all these crimes were mainly derived from culture and the sickly obsession over masculinity as a form of strength and power. Not all men are deranged like Elliot Rodger or any of the other murderers were and obviously misogynistic perceptions have relatively decreased compared to the past, but the men that still do acquire a twisted self identity as a male have been and still are crushing the lives of innocent people and showing us how negatively powerful a social perception can be in creating such monsters. In a cultural atmosphere that often defines “being a true man” as showing power and a violent, cocky attitude, it’s not much of a surprise that many men affected by these strange standards of sexuality believe that the whole world owes them. These men have a mutated “masculine” ego that causes them to even believe that women owe them pleasure and sex, and, as in the case of Rodger, when women deny them these things, they feel that it is completely justified to display their “masculinity” by being brutal and killing people.

Scared of what will become of our society yet? Let me tell you an even more shocking fact: There are many people that applaud Elliot Rodger for his killings, claiming that the women should have given him sex when he wanted it.

WHAT? WHAT. WHAT?! Wha.. I’m still having trouble accepting it. Some netizens even went as far as to say that they “encourage more young men to take womens lives” and “thanks for putting these bitches in their place” or even victimized Elliot Rodger, stating that he had to go through the agony of  involuntary celibacy. And guess what? Some of these ridiculous comments had more than 50 likes. Which means there are actually lots of ignorant people in this world with distorted minds and a sick perception of their own sexuality and gender. And in a reality where misogyny and violent masculinity is proven to kill, just sit there for a moment and imagine the future of humanity…

Wanna see more outrageous stuff? This post was inspired by this video: http://www.upworthy.com/in-the-last-33-years-70-of-the-71-mass-murderers-in-the-us-all-had-1-thing-in-common?c=reccon1

 

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Image credits: http://www.tumeke.blogspot.kr/2012/02/tui-isnt-sexist-bloke-beer-drunk-by-nz.html

http://www.asamnews.com/2014/05/28/elliot-rodger-story-is-being-framed-through-the-lens-of-white-media/

http://www.endmisogyny.org/category/general-misogyny/

Let’s have an online sleepover where we tell each other about our tedious daily lives.

Hey readers,

If you’re up for some one-on-one bonding time over ranting on about our tough lives, you’re in the right place. (We can be frieeennds!) Of course all of us are living extremely blessed lives, but sometimes we just have to let the things on our mind out so that we can move on and be all happy and chirpy again. What are you stressing out over these days? Tell me by commenting on this post(click the title of this post, then scroll down to the bottom of the post. You’ll find the comment box.)

And I know (trust me, I do, I’m in high school) that sometimes you just can’t whine to your friends or the people around you because they’re too involved and continuously complaining about the details of your dreary life to them might chase them off. So why don’t we(yes, me and you. You and Konni.) rant to each other about our daily struggles? I’m willing to talk. Or maybe just listen, if that’s what you want.

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(So…let’s feed each other strawberries and have some quality bonding time like the people in this photo..?)

So let’s just sit down here with a cup of tea(ehh. I’ll have a chocolate Nesquik. But whatever works..) and talk about our hardships and the teeny-tiny annoying things that your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/employer/friend does that you just can’t stand. Let’s talk about trivial things(or crucial events, if you’re up for it) like shallow people at a hair salon. Or like 15 year old girls at a sleepover.

Honestly, these days I’m having a hard time with running a not-your-average-fashion-blog blog. It has its perks, like being able to connect more genuinely with my readers. I also get to do whatever I want whenever I want to. I get to be myself. But the hardships are pressing down on me these days. Typical fashion/style related blogs are usually packed with high-definition photos of pretty girls posing with an indifferent look on their faces, wearing the hottest trends or the cutest little vintage item. Their photos are all over tumblr, WeHeartIt, Instagram, etc. It’s easier for them to get recognized as a ‘fashion blog’ among young teens(mostly girls). But the thing is, I’m raw. Maybe too raw to be the owner of a fashion blog. I take raw photos, I don’t buy designer label clothes, and I don’t make things look pretty. Usually I criticize the current fashion industry or try to prove how awesome fashion is not by posting pictures of beautiful leggy girls in floral dresses but by writing my mind and trying to stay as true to myself as possible. And as lovely as it is for me, it’s so much harder to get noticed by the fashion industry or magazine scouts. This makes it more difficult to get my thoughts across to big crowds of people.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking down on other fashion-related blogs. I’ve just observed some differences between the majority of fashion blogs and mine. I’m just stating some thoughts that popped up in my head while exploring Seventeen Magazine’s Style Council teenage bloggers.

Being off the mainstream road can be tough, I guess.

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(random photo of homemade cupcakes. My mum and sister made them for me on my 17th birthday.)

I’m also stressed because of relationships and my emotions. I feel very frustrated when I can’t control my emotions. But then… schoolwork just keeps rollin’ in and I have so much to do everyday, which prevents me from getting a chance to sit down alone and sort my emotions out.

Well, that was me.

Your turn.

What’s on YOUR mind?

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Image Credits(first photo):

http://glossi.com/Fairy_Magazine/61491-fairy-magazine-issue-one

My favorite men’s summer 2014 fashion: the online brand Bonobos!

Hey readers,

Honestly, this is my very first menswear post. I don’t usually blog about men’s clothes because I’m a woman and I (obviously) encounter women’s clothes more often, but brace yourselves because from now on I’m going to post more menswear posts. ‘Why?’ Because I’m in love. ‘With a man?’ Kind of. I’m in love with his chinos.

For those of you that are sitting in front of your laptops wondering what in the world the word ‘chinos’ could possibly mean, ‘chino’ is a type of twill fabric, and the word also refers to trousers(pants) made of the material. (When I say chinos I mean the trousers.) And they’ve caught my eye this summer. No wait-specifically, the menswear brand Bonobos‘s new 2014 summer collection of garment-dyed chinos has captured my so very special attention. (Visit Bonobos now!)

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(Sea green garment dyed chinos. Bonobos.)

(I LOVE THIS COLOR!! It’s so fresh and minty!*squeals like a fangirl*)

For me the summertime is all about lighthearted fun and youthful cheer, and Bonobos’s garment dyed chinos say just that with their soft pastel tones and comfy-yet-preppy style. It’s like watching children make sandcastles, candyfloss(cotton candy) on a stick, and mint ice cream with delicious peanut sprinkles (why do I always make food comparisons…). I personally find it extremely attractive when men wear light colored trousers because it tones down the heaviness of the overall look and makes a guy look so much more brighter and approachable. If there’s anyone out there reading this that’s looking for a girl/boyfriend or trying to get that special someone’s attention in the school corridors, I recommend these wonderful garment dyed chinos.

Bonobos is a clothing brand focused on delivering great fit, high energy, and superb customer experience. Launched in 2007 on the Internet with its signature line of better-fitting men’s pants, Bonobos is now the largest apparel brand ever built on the web in the United States. In 2011 Bonobos extended offline, launching Bonobos Guideshops, e-commerce showrooms that deliver personalized, one-to-one service to those wanting to experience the brand in-person. In 2012, Bonobos expanded its distribution partnering with Nordstrom, bringing Bonobos apparel into select doors nationwide and to Nordstrom.com. Across channels, Bonobos is focused on delivering a well-targeted brand promise: world-class fit, an innovative shopping experience and an energetic brand spirit. Bonobos was named “One of America’s Hottest Brands” by Advertising Age, “Best Men’s Pants” by New York Magazine, one of Inc. Magazine’s “20 Awesome Facebook Pages” and was awarded Crain’s “Best Places to Work in New York City”. Visit www.bonobos.com.

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(from Bonobos’s Street Style photoshoot.)

 The chinos go really well with canvas shoes or casual floral shirts. I love how men’s fashion is gradually moving away from the standardized ‘black, grey, and brown’ colors and stiff formal hemlines, and is shifting towards a more harmonized jumble of both originally feminine and masculine style traits.

I’m also personally deeply in love with floral patterns for menswear. It just makes men look so stylish and fabulous-it’s like they’re saying ‘talk to me, I’m flirtatious and interesting’.

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(also from Bonobos’s Street Style photoshoot.)

There really aren’t many online clothing brands that I feel like I can trust(after all, it IS the internet), but Bonobos is a brand that’s always reliable, fashionable, and international(which is good news since lots of you guys, my readers, are from different countries)! Another thing I love about them is that they’re so unique with their collections and create trends rather than just follow mainstream trends.

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(Garment dyed chinos. Bonobos.)

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(Nantucket red garment dyed chinos. Bonobos.)

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(Wheat garment dyed chinos. Bonobos.)

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(Navy blazer garment dyed chinos. Bonobos.)

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My lazy Tuesday

Hey readers,

Today I didn’t go to school because it was the school’s 30th anniversary. I lingered around at home, went alone to a nearby cafe, read a book, studied, ate food, ate food, ate food, and ate food (you get what I’m sayin’). On a typical Tuesday I would be at school all day(school usually ends at 10:10 pm.), but for once I had the chance to spend my Tuesday relaxing alone. I had quite a pleasant day today, and would like to share it with you guys!

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(This latte in a jar tasted amazing. Best latte I’ve ever tasted.)

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(because drawing on myself is always fun.)

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(Why is Math so hard?)

I listened to Birdy all day. Her voice is so angelic and beautiful and makes me feel so…peaceful. (Look her up already if you don’t know who she is. ‘Seriously? You don’t know who BIRDY is yet?!’)

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I love the lyrics to her song, ‘Wings‘. To watch the music video, click here.

Sunlight comes creeping in
Illuminates our skin
We watch the day go by
Stories of all we did
It made me think of you
It made me think of you
Under a trillion stars
We danced on top of cars
Took pictures of the stage
So far from where we are
They made me think of you
They made me think of you

Oh lights go down
In the moment we’re lost and found
I just wanna be by your side
If these wings could fly
Oh damn these walls
In the moment we’re ten feet tall
And how you told me after it all
We’d remember tonight
For the rest of our lives

I’m in a foreign state
My thoughts they slip away
My words are leaving me
They caught an aeroplane
Because I thought of you
Just from the thought of you

Oh lights go down
In the moment we’re lost and found
I just wanna be by your side
If these wings could fly
Oh damn these walls
In the moment we’re ten feet tall
And how you told me after it all
We’d remember tonight
For the rest of our lives

If these wings could fly

Oh lights go down
In the moment we’re lost and found
I just wanna be by your side
If these wings could fly
Oh damn these walls
In the moment we’re ten feet tall
And how you told me after it all
We’d remember tonight
For the rest of our lives

Well… that’s all for now! Have a great day, everyone. Cheers.

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Image Credits: Photo of Birdy from (http://www.getshotmagazine.com/2013/04/15/birdy-the-opera-house/)

Street Style: Make Statement Maxis Your Summer Saviour (Guest Post)

Hey readers, this post is a guest post by Daria, an amazing blogger and fashion enthusiast(check the bottom of the post for more details). This post is a Konni Kim Designs X AllBrandsGlasses.com collaboration.

Street Style: Make Statement Maxis Your Summer Saviour

 

In the heat of summer, many of us tend to become “allergic” to fabric. Tops turn strappy or even strapless, the length of shorts goes higher and higher (hot pants!), and full shoes are exchanged for sandals or flip flops. Although it may seem like the right thing to do, since it’s so impossibly hot wherever you go, we think you should reconsider. On the one hand, it’s not healthy: bare skin and the hot summer sun don’t make a good team. Clearly, you can’t always be in the shade, so remember to put on a hat, sunglasses, and sunscreen! Covering up a bit will only protect more of your skin. And did you know that thin, natural fabrics can even keep you cool? On the other hand, everyone is showing off their skin. Why not dare to be different and maybe even a bit mysterious? No, we’re not talking turtlenecks and jeans… we’re talking maxi skirts and dresses! They’re flowy and let you breathe, while also giving you a put-together look. Plus, they really make a statement! Still not convinced? Here are some summer looks that we think you’re gonna love:

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Image sources: Street Style Aesthetic+ Refinery29

 

A maxi dressis all the comfort you need on hot summer days. Plus, it’s an outfit in itself! If you want something dressy, a maxi shirt dress in a classic print will look impressive. Pair it with heels and a purse, maybe even a thin belt, and you’re good to go! If the look you’re going for is more relaxed, a geometric print will do the trick. Pair a maxi dress with sunglassesand summer boots, and enjoy your day out.

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Image sources: Refinery29

 

 

Both of these looks were worn at Coachella, so we think they’re quite right for summer! A printed maxi skirt can be a true statement. You can pair it with a plain top to keep things simple, or with a matching top if you’re a bold fashionista. Whether you choose flats or boots to complete the look is fully up to you – but don’t forget your sunglasses and some bangles.

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Image sources: Citizen Couture+ Lee Oliviera

 

Maxis don’t need prints to make a statement: a bold color or a fun texturework just as well. For an everyday summer look, pair a red maxi skirt with a printed shirt, sunglasses and sandals, and enjoy a light, comfortable outfit. If you want something funkier, go for a layered skirt with different levels of transparency, which you can tone down with a sweatshirt and creepers.

 

Which outfit would you wear?

 

About Author:

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Daria is a fashion enthusiast with a soft spot for vintage style and cats. She also blogs at CelebritySunglassesWatcher.com

 

 

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My (Fashionable) Trip to Daegu

Hi readers,

I haven’t posted anything new lately because I had my AP exams a few days ago, but I’m back now! Today I decided to share some photos that I took on a recent family trip to my parents’ hometown, Daegu. (It’s a city in the southern part of Korea.) I don’t usually enjoy family trips that much but this time I found a way to spice things up a bit-taking fashion-forward photos wherever I go!

I tried to make use of the colors of the background, and harmonize them with the colors of the clothes that my sister and I were wearing. Take a look and tell me what you think!
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The most talked about fashion event right now: The Charles James Benefit Gala

Hello, my lovely readers! How was your day? : ) Mine was alright.

The most talked about fashion event at the moment is, without doubt, the ‘Charles James: Beyond fashion’ gala benefit that was held on the 5th this month at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York. We’ve all seen the headlines. News about the gala is splashed all over fashion magazines, sns pages, blogs, etc. Whenever I open my laptop to casually surf the internet, I’m overwhelmed by thousands of fashion articles throwing today’s most popular celebrity names at my face, with netizens gushing over how Blake Lively, Emma Stone, or Madonna totally had perfectly coordinated outfits that accentuated their body types.

Since the whole fashion business is focused on the gala and the Charles James exhibition right now, I’m determined to write my own article about the Met event. One thing I realized while researching to write this article is that most of the articles online only gossip about what the celebrities are wearing on the red carpet rather than the actual exhibition itself, or what Charles James has done to innovate the fashion industry and deserve his own exhibition at THE Metropolitan Museum of Art. That’s why I decided to write about the great Charles James himself. I assume that not many of you have never even heard his name before (“Charles who?”). But he’s one of the most brilliant eccentrics that I’ve ever read about.

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(One of James’s “Four Leaf Clover” dresses.)

Charles James(1906~1978), or, as Christian Dior labelled him, “the greatest talent of my generation”, was a perpetrator as well as a victim. While he incited chaos, he also had to run from it his entire life. James was born in England, and as a boy he showed musical talent but didn’t do well at school. His relationship with his father was significantly dysfunctional; both father and son shared a mutual animosity, which is apparently why he turned to the fashion industry, a business his father couldn’t stand.

James worked as a couturier in America, advertising through fashion press all over the world. He had a well-built reputation when he returned to London in 1929, and he later came to own exclusive salons in Paris, London, and New York. James’s success is said to have been built upon his spatial intelligence. He could imagine a design for a dress in several dimensions, and make it then and there. Some of his many unprecedented creations include the spiral cut and the taxi dress(a dress designed so that women could slip in and out of it easily in the backseat of a cab). Although James isn’t well-known among the general public(partly due to the fact that he didn’t establish a long-lasting brand label), fashion experts and insiders remember him for his elaborate ballgowns(which were tailored perfectly and made of exquisite fabrics), capes, and coats.

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(“Tree” Dress. Charles James, 1955.)

An interesting achievement of James is that he set a precedent for including couture in the category of art. By getting the gowns he designed into the Brooklyn Museum, he started a pattern of regarding fashion and clothes as works of art, and this idea still lingers about the current fashion industry, where famous modern couture labels like Prada are collaborating with artists like Damien Hirst to merge fashion and art into one concept.

In 1950, James won the Coty Award, and three years later, in 1953, he won the Neiman Marcus Fashion Award. Although James had been openly gay since he was a teenager, in 1954, he married Nancy Lee Gregory(yes, a woman). He later claimed that his wife knew that he was homosexual. As successful as he once was, Charles James could not escape from an immense debt and habits such as substance abuse. He ended once cherished relationships and even fell as low as to returning his rewards and accusing the Brooklyn museum for stealing materials that he had left there himself for storage. He was constantly having to run and hide from the creditors he owed, living in a myriad of different hotels, one after another.

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In later life, James eventually settled on teaching. He worked with students of the prestigious Pratt Institute and and the Art Students League. Now this is where the title of today’s exhibition, ‘Beyond Fashion’, comes in. James was writing a memoir which he intended to call ‘Beyond Fashion’, but unfortunately, he never got to finish it. Homer Layne, a Pratt student that used to be James’ chief assistant and took care of James’s works, gave James’s old pieces to the Metropolitan Museum of Art last year.

It was Friday, September 22, 1978 when Charles James passed away, leaving months of back rent and debt behind. The medical cause of his death was determined to be pneumonia and heart disease. To the medics that had come in an ambulance on the day of his death, Charles James said,

“It may not mean anything to you, but I am what is popularly regarded as the greatest couturier in the Western world.”

 

Charles James was an innovator and a genius. Although I disapprove of some of his ideals(such as his view of femininity-he strongly opted for very traditional definitions and images of femininity only), I must admit that he has lived one of the most intriguing lives I’ve ever seen, and really just followed his gut throughout his turbulent adventure of life. He was raw, he was passionate, and he was real. He didn’t fake it, he really was himself the whole time, and I truly respect that in a person. Charles James’ life reminded me of how simultaneously hard and exciting a life in the fashion industry can be, and now I’m in love with fashion even more deeply.

Kudos to Charles James and the Met for coming this far. It’s a shame he isn’t here to see us celebrate his designs.

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Research Citing:

http://www.newyorker.com/arts/critics/atlarge/2014/05/05/140505crat_atlarge_thurman?currentPage=all

Image Credits:

http://www.brooklynmuseum.org, http://www.metmuseum.org, http://www.wmagazine.org, theredist.com

The Existential Crisis at 3 AM

Hi readers,

So it’s 3 AM. I’m lying here in my grandmother’s bed. I’m on a family trip to Daegu(that’s a city in the Southern part of South Korea), because it’s my grandmother’s 70th birthday. I’m just lying here wondering, “What am I doing here?”

konni2(I’m running. Today I went out with my family to enjoy some fresh air and hang out. It was nice to get away from my stressful daily life for once.)

It’s actually a question that I’ve been asking myself for a few weeks now. “What the heck am I doing here?” “Why am I here?” It triggers a moment of confusion and sharp thinking about the situation I’m in. I think about my fate, my life, and about nothingness. Every time I ask myself the question, the world stops still for a split second and my brain seems to whizz past everything in my life. Even though I constantly ask myself the question, I’ve never been able to provide myself with a sufficient enough answer(which is probably why I keep asking myself). The question throws me back every time; it catches me when I’m least expecting it, unendowed with the level of deepness that the question requires at that moment. For a thousandth of a second, I’m drawn into the question. And then the question just disappears, like a puff of cigarette smoke, as my friend in the distance calls me to ask me something about our Math homework.

That’s why I’ve decided to lay here and find the answer to the question before I fall asleep. I want to find a definite answer, so that I can fully eliminate the little puddle of guilt that has formed in a lonely corner of my mind. Well, to begin with, I didn’t choose to be born as myself. I didn’t choose to look like this, to be Korean to be in this environment, etc. But I definitely did make certain decisions that have led me to become who I am now. I chose to stay up till 5 AM writing about fashion. I chose to come to this school to study. I also chose to create or break relationships as I grew up. So I guess you could say that the logical reason I’m here at this point in time, in this particular place, with these people, is fate and my choices. Therefore, every moment of my life is a result, a consequence, of this life I’ve made for myself.

Then… does this mean I’m here merely because this situation is an inevitable aftermath that I’ve brought upon myself? Surely there must be something more. After an internal existential crisis, I conclude that there really isn’t a solid reason for me being here doing what I’m doing. Everyone has different themes that they focus on throughout their lifetime, and that’s why we all have different motives to our lives. The purpose of life isn’t there for us to find. We make the purpose of our own lives as we experience and learn. It’s the choices I make and the attitudes I obtain that define and shape my reason for existence. In short, it’s up to me.

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Interview with pop singer Derik Fein!

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I must admit-I am addicted to Twitter. Yes. Twitter. I just started actively tweeting a few days ago, and ever since I’ve just been obsessed with talking to Konni Kim Designs(KKD) readers and followers. It literally is a whole new world, and it’s opened new doors of interaction that have allowed me to talk to KKD followers from all over the world, and I LOVE IT. : D

Through Twitter, I’ve also been communicating with other bloggers, brands, YouTubers, artists, musicians etc. It’s super easy to get introduced to wonderful people who are also publishing their work on the internet, since Twitter automatically recommends scores of the most talented, successful new people for me to ‘follow’ every day. So I guess it wasn’t much of a coincidence that Twitter led me to Derik Fein, an amazing American pop singer with a great taste in music and style.

(Check out his official website: http://www.derikfein.com/ -You can also follow/like him on Twitter/Facebook through his website)

Aaand… as you probably noticed from the title, I actually got the chance to interview him one-on-one! (dances internally)

Without further ado, here goes.

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(K: Konni, D: Derik)

K: Hi Derik! It’s great to have you here. Could you tell us a little about yourself and your music, for people reading this interview that don’t yet know you?
D: My name is Derik Fein. I’m a POP singer from Miami. I have an amazing fan base called #Feiners.

K: When and why did you start pursuing music? Was it a lifelong dream or was it a spontaneous urge?
D: Definitely a life long urge. I’ve never had a lesson. Self taught. I began playing guitar when i was 12 years old. I traded my ipod for my friend’s broken guitar. Since then I have not stopped. I later took on singing.

K: Were your family/friends supportive of you making music and becoming a musician?
D: At first no one took me seriously, and it was more of a hobby. Now my family and friends are very supportive of my career. It has been a long musical journey for me.

 

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(from Derik’s music video ‘Times Square’. Click here to watch the video!)
K: I heard that you’re going on a world tour at the end of this year-tell us more about it! (Which countries are you gonna be visiting, what should fans be expecting to see, etc.)
D: No official dates or locations (are) confirmed. Stay tuned!
K: In your opinion, what are the similarities and differences between music and fashion?
D: Music and fashion are similar in the sense of being a form of expression. Both inspire and evoke many emotions in people. Both trends are constantly changing. Music aids our feelings while fashion displays our lifestyle.
K: Are you interested in fashion? Are you fashionable?
D: I love staying up to date with the latest fashion trends. I’ve been told that I am.

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K: What do you think of the modern fashion industry?
D: I think it’s rapidly changing. I could say I’m fond of whats currently trending.
K: Who/what is your ultimate inspiration?
D: Elvis, Steve Jobs and Enzo Ferrari. They were innovators.
K: What are your future prospects, both as a musician and as a person?
D: I have many exciting projects to look forward to in the near future. I would like to form a clothing line.
K: Any last words to your fans(including me : )) before we end the interview?
D: I love all of my #Feiners. Stay tuned for many exciting things to come this year.
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(Derik with #Feiners!)
K: Just one last random question-What’s your favorite movie and why?
D: My favorite movie at the moment is Crazy Stupid Love, Because I can relate 🙂

 

Aaand that’s a wrap!
The interview was pretty short(sorry!) but nevertheless I hope you enjoyed reading it!
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#Feiners! I might send some comments and send them to Derik Fein directly : )