I got criticized for wearing a sleeveless top

Hi readers,

Today I went to a middle school reunion. It was great-there was an amazing buffet(PORK RIBS!!!), loads of teachers(I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing), and last but not least I got to meet all my old friends. When I walked in with my friend, we said hi to everyone, got our food, and sat at the table that our other close friends were sitting at. We were all having a lovely conversation and talked about our lives, who we were dating(I’m currently dating my foldable sofa-bed), and of course, about old times.Β It was then when one of my friends mentioned how I used to be approximately a year ago. I do admit that I was crazy back then(compared to my current state)-obnoxiously being flirty, wearing weird makeup, trying to be friends with every single person so that I could be liked by everybody…etc etc.

My friend said, “Remember that time you showed up wearing a green sleeveless top with tassels at the bottom? Everyone thought you had gone mad!”Β 

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(I’ve looked all around my house for the top…but I failed to find it, so here’s a similar one that I found on the internet.)

It was a strange moment for me. I was trying to figure out whether I should laugh along and agree with her(and the rest of the kids sitting at the table) or be sassy and assertive. At first I thought, ‘What was so wrong about me wearing that top..? I actually like that top!’ And then I started slowly chewing my pork ribs(ugh. that’s a distracting word.) and thinking and over-analyzing(typical Konni). It made me really uncomfortable.

On my way back home from the reunion, I came to the conclusion that their(my old friends) culture and their experiences are too different from my own for us to have the same standards for what clothes are “crazy”(if there are any at all). Is showing your shoulders a crazy thing to do? Sure, that top wasn’t plain, but I would never call it “crazy”. I grew up in London and all my life I’ve been so attached to the idea that I should not be influenced by Korean standards of clothing, and that I should be the less conservative person. (I’d like to clarify that I don’t mean to say that all Koreans are conservative and that people on the rest of the planet are less conservative. I’m referring to the majority of people, and to the notable differences in popular culture between Korea and other places like the UK.) I think it was rooted in a sort of guilty pride that I was different from the other kids who had spent their whole childhood in Korea. It was my identity, and it still does remain as a part of me.

I didn’t wear that top to look ‘cool’ or necessarily to attract attention. It was just who I was back then. I’ve never regretted wearing that top around. I guess it shocked my friends, though.

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Image Credits: http://www.sheinside.com/Army-Green-Tassel-Round-Neck-Loose-Off-The-Shoulder-Tshirt-p-87162-cat-1738.html

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32 responses to “I got criticized for wearing a sleeveless top

  1. Hmmmm, their comment was quite odd. I think you would only qualify as crazy wearing that top if you’d shredded the fringe yourself with your teeth…you didn’t do that, did you? Big cities like London, New York etc give us such freedoms to express ourselves that we forget the sheltered viewpoints of old friends who’ve stayed in their small towns and villages. Thank goodness for big cities and tassels, I say! πŸ™‚

    • The top in the picture isn’t the actual top-I couldn’t find it so I had to pull something similar off the internet. But yeah, I didn’t really understand it either. : S I think people need to start being more open about other people expressing themselves. (NY is awesome!)

  2. Maybe “crazy” was your friends’ way of saying how how bold they thought you were being. It sounds to me like there was a compliment couched in that word “crazy.” Your friends might have laughed but they might have envied how you expressed your individuality. Anyway I bet you rocked that top.

    • Haha, maybe! Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. I didn’t really think I was being bold though, and it makes me feel sad that we often restrict each other from diverging from the ‘typical’. Thanks : )

  3. You are right, your friends are wrong…there are no “crazy clothes” its all about personal taste and style, and what makes you feel good, also, there is nothing wrong with wearing something just to look cool or even attract attention, is there ? πŸ˜‰ I’d be willing to bet that you could have an opinion or two about what they were wearing. BTW, that top is cute and can be quite fashionably paired with many things.

    • Thanks! Yes, I totally agree, we shouldn’t criticize people for being different or diverging from the social norm. Like you said, you can wear a certain thing for many different types of reasons, but none of them are ‘wrong’. (The top I talked about isn’t actually the top in the picture-I couldn’t find my top so I had to just get a photo of a similar one from the internet.) Thanks for stopping by!

  4. When I was your age, I would have definitely worn that top… goes perfectly with my suede mocassins with the fringe! And green to match my eyes… on second thought, where’d you find that blouse online?? I like it alot!

  5. That would have made me uncomfortable too. I find it difficult to understand people who negatively judge others based on their clothing. They’re just clothes! Who cares? I would find it hard to relate to someone who thought that a comment like that was appropriate.

    • Yes, people always judge each other based on things like clothes, or whether you have nice hair etc… and it really bugs me sometimes. I agree-no one should be negatively judged based on their clothing style.

  6. I don’t want to disparage your old classmates — but their style, and their opinions of your style, are their issue, ( or non-issue!) I have a slogan, borrowed from The Four Agreements — No one can hurt me unless I let them. This applies, whether the hurt is something horrible, or something as basic as criticizing your choice of a great top!

  7. I love your top and as someone who is obsessed with Korean culture I’ve always wondered what was considered off the wall for them. I guess now I know. Thanks for that.

    • Judging from my personal experience, I can’t deny that my Korean friends are a lot more conservative and less-experimental than my friends from London or other countries. However, it definitely doesn’t apply to all Koreans… in dynamic places like Hongdae(in Seoul), there are also many Koreans with a highly eccentric sense of style. I hope I didn’t give the impression that all Koreans are like the friends I mentioned in this post! : ) Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Have a great day!

      • No, no I think Korea is like most places you have your conservative types and your free spirits. I was just wondering if your experience was like the drama’s I favour, probably not it’s the telly.

      • Oh, I’m sorry for misunderstanding. : ) Yes, Korean dramas don’t really succeed in portraying every aspect of life in Korea.. Wow, you watch Korean dramas? : D

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